May 28
Ayoub's wedding ceremonies continued on the next day. A big meal of course, and then everybody into cars and a school bus for a tour around the lake visiting shrines for the groom to pray for the success of the marriage. I dropped out and made my own way home as all the groomsmen headed off in a long cavalcade to pick up the bride at her families home and bring her back to her bridegrooms house. Auyoub was relaxed and loose during the first part of the day, despite the disaster of his heena night, but as zero hour approached and his family began to robe him for the event he had stiffened up into a wooden statue. Very involved proccess for the groom. Don't know what the bride does waiting for him to get there.
That blast of wind the night before turned out to be very destructive. It overturned shikaras all over the lake and lifted the roofs right off houses and ripped off brickwork from exposed upper stories. Many houses use the top floor of the houses for food storage for the winter and that floor is ofter left with large uncovered areas in the walls. The attic is basically just a steeply sloped roof perched on posts. The wind got underneath five of these structures just in the small area Ayoub lives in, including Ayoub's parents house and popped the roofs off and dropped them back down on the house. A real mess.
I'm getting ready to pull out of Shrinegar, packed up a bunch of extra clothing to mail home. I have two very large suitcases to shepherd to Delhi on the train so I don't want a whole bunch of little ones as well. I'm planning on taking a shakira ride over to see some of those floating gardens with something growing in them. I'm going to be flying out in ten more days.
THis is so annoying, I don't know why pictures sometimes come up with colours inverted. By the way, you can click on images and get a larger version.
May 18
Was supposed to go to a wedding party, a Heena Night for the groom before he goes over and claims his bride. I got out to the neighborhood shopping centre near his house, there are a couple of blocks you have to do on foot because the road bed hasn't been surfaced yet and I need a guide to get there. Anyway, while I am waiting for the ride to come, a strong wind blows up, lots of lightning, scatter of rain. I'm waiting and waiting, nobody shows so I phone again. The wind has blown the roof off the shelter where they were preparing food. Everybody is crying, everything is a mess. So I say it doesn't sound like a good time for guests. I'll just get a rickshaw back to Dallgate and try to hook up tomorrow. Branches of chinar trees down all over the road and many signs hanging by one nail. Nasty little gust.
Maybe some nice photos tomorrow.
By the way, I'm a grandmother now. My daughter had a big baby boy, no name yet but mother and babe home and doing well.
May 17th
I have only a voice to undo the folded lie.
The lie of authority whose buildings grope the sky
The lie of the sensual man in the street.
Hunger allows no choice to the citizen or police.
We must love one another or die.
In the days after 9/11 I searched for that scrap of Auden to comfort myself. In Srinagar I found myself reaching for that scrap of comfort again. People have been telling me about their experiences of living in Kashmir through 3 wars and a never ending guerrillas assaults by independent jihadic militants over the last 18 years. Pretty wrenching stuff.
I wrote a long post for Indiamike.com (Reflections on Kashmir, if anyone is interested.) India Mike is a forum for travelers in India. People responded that my views were one sided because I had only talked to one group in Kashmir. Actually human pain is pretty universal and no respecter of any person. I suspect those others I have not had the opportunity to speak to would tell me almost the same thing. A lot of pain here in Kashmir. A lot of war wounds.
As far as Kashmiris are concerned, militants and the army are equally bad news. To the army there's no way to tell the difference between Kashmiris and militants, and strong suspicions that all Kashmiris are militants. Most of the Hindu population got the hell out one way or another. They are mostly in Jammu.
So it's a pretty tough little town. The war that is going on is actually far more psychological than physical despite all the bullets rattling around. The soldiers want some sort of dominance, you can see it in their attitudes toward even tourists. It's been going on for eighteen year and the Kashmiris have not backed down an inch. They don't argue with men with guns but they don't necessarily respect a man just because he has the gun either.
I experienced a little of that fear everybody around here lives with. I walked into a friends shop for our evening ritual glass of tea and there was a whole patrol of soldiers on the stairs leading up to and in his shop. Just a happy little chat with the captain of the group charged with making sure that no incidents happened anywhere in the tourist zone. Showed me his scar too. This is the evening after I had posted on India Mike. Could actually feel beads of sweat break out on my forehead. These guys are fast or God bless Google. Anyway he spent some time trying to convince me what bad guys Pakistanis are and left when I didn't appear to be all that convinced. Have never been to Pakistan. Don't know anything about them.
Of course that big army, a lot more men than the Americans have in Iraq, is not there to deal with the handful of raggedy assed Afghanis looking for somewhere to punch their ticket to paradise. They are there to deal with that armoured column that Pakistan may send down the pike someday. Meanwhile India has the same problem that Rome always had. Where do you park an army when you are not using it? Well in Gaul or Spain of course. What else can India do, put them in Anantapur to chase Naxelites? Back in Dehradun for more combat training? Not many Indian cities would want that lot on their doorstep. Why not in Kashmir? India owns it now after all..
Anyway, that's what I've been up to lately. Read a great book Ghosts of Kashmir by Shanka Vedantam.
